The other week I got sent a great link to a you tube clip showing Qld Reds captain Will Genia being interviewed by the Fox Sports commentator. The humorous bit was in the top left corner was a counter that was counting the number of clichés Genia used during the interview.
For a long time people have complained about the way sportsmen and politicians speak in clichés. They roll out the same comments week after week and will actually answer a question without actually giving us a glimpse of what the really think. The winning captain will always say ‘we always knew it would be a hard game’ ‘the opposition never stopped trying’ instead of perhaps saying we were better than they were. They hide their true thoughts and feelings behind clichés.
Well sportsmen and politicians aren’t the only ones. Check out your Ministers sermon next week or what the song leader at church says between songs. We Christians are just as guilty of speaking in clichés. We use phrases and words that are only familiar to fellow believers. Words such as redemption. To a Christian redemption means what Christ did on the cross. To our non Christian audience redemption means getting even.
Now you can start to see why to most non Christians think all churches speak in tongues. Christians use words and phrases which are great if you are already a member of the in crowd. If you aren’t a ‘member’ then sorry you wouldn’t understand.
Other examples of words that only christians know are contemporary music and youth. Go to a record shop and and try and buy a contemporary music album. Cant. That's right because it doesn't exist as a music genre. Only in church do we talk about contemporary music and the non christians wonder what we are talking about. Even the word youth is only talked about in church. What is a youth? Is it a 12 year old? Maybe 15 or is it 20 years old? Not sure.
It’s like we need to introduce a plain speaking language for church. We need to step back look at the words we use and say does the common person actually understand what I just said. Even simple words like sin really aren’t used in every day language.
Let me know your thoughts.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Today's Generation Gap
Is it harder parenting in the 21st Century than the 20th Century? The last couple of months I have been challenged with how little I know about the new technology that is sweeping the planet. At one stage I used to wear with pride the badge that said ‘I have never visited Myspace/Facebook/Youtube’. That was until my kids starting becoming old enough to want to dabble in that part of the web.
Now I’m beginning to understand the generation gap stuff that my parents warned me about. I used to think I was hip enough. Years of working in youth ministry and now over a decade working in the media made me believe that I was up with all the trends and technology. I knew I was relatively ignorant about computers (some would say scared) and my internet ability was limited to what I needed to use for research purposes at work. Recently I have had a cathartic moment that computers and internet are going to last longer than Amco flares or leg warmers.
I was wary because most of this internet stuff seemed to be self focussed. There was Myspace, youtube, iPhone, iTunes. I was fearful that perhaps today’s youth were growing up to be self absorbed. Even what I still call mobile phones really aren’t. They had become electronic communication devices that take photos. A lot of this web2.0 technology is certainly impersonal communication. It is less and less about personal face to face or even ear to ear communicating with people. It’s more about keeping in touch, letting people know you are around without necessarily having a conversation. Sometimes I think its more about leaving an electronic footprint that says I do exist. Prior to that I guess you could be alive on this planet but very few people would know that. Web 2.0 gives people the opportunity to announce via facebook, myspace or now twitter that yes I do exist.
So is it wrong? I’m still not totally convinced that it’s ok. I know it is not legally or perhaps morally wrong. In reality I know that my kids will eagerly embrace this technology while I somewhat unwillingly jump into this cyber maze. I do know that I still need to be vigilant in making sure my kids get enough social contact that is face to face without iPod earphones stuck in their ears. Places like church, sport and school will give them the opportunity to engage with real people away from any cyber personality they or their facebook friends have. I also need to monitor their cyber space stuff, making sure it doesn’t consume them. I also need to ask lots of questions about their cyber world and do my own research e.g. facebook/myspace is ok; MSN is fraught with danger.
And I know realise that today’s generation gap is not a battle over music or clothes like it was for my parents but is over the use of cyber technology.
Now more than ever us parents need to pray.
Now I’m beginning to understand the generation gap stuff that my parents warned me about. I used to think I was hip enough. Years of working in youth ministry and now over a decade working in the media made me believe that I was up with all the trends and technology. I knew I was relatively ignorant about computers (some would say scared) and my internet ability was limited to what I needed to use for research purposes at work. Recently I have had a cathartic moment that computers and internet are going to last longer than Amco flares or leg warmers.
I was wary because most of this internet stuff seemed to be self focussed. There was Myspace, youtube, iPhone, iTunes. I was fearful that perhaps today’s youth were growing up to be self absorbed. Even what I still call mobile phones really aren’t. They had become electronic communication devices that take photos. A lot of this web2.0 technology is certainly impersonal communication. It is less and less about personal face to face or even ear to ear communicating with people. It’s more about keeping in touch, letting people know you are around without necessarily having a conversation. Sometimes I think its more about leaving an electronic footprint that says I do exist. Prior to that I guess you could be alive on this planet but very few people would know that. Web 2.0 gives people the opportunity to announce via facebook, myspace or now twitter that yes I do exist.
So is it wrong? I’m still not totally convinced that it’s ok. I know it is not legally or perhaps morally wrong. In reality I know that my kids will eagerly embrace this technology while I somewhat unwillingly jump into this cyber maze. I do know that I still need to be vigilant in making sure my kids get enough social contact that is face to face without iPod earphones stuck in their ears. Places like church, sport and school will give them the opportunity to engage with real people away from any cyber personality they or their facebook friends have. I also need to monitor their cyber space stuff, making sure it doesn’t consume them. I also need to ask lots of questions about their cyber world and do my own research e.g. facebook/myspace is ok; MSN is fraught with danger.
And I know realise that today’s generation gap is not a battle over music or clothes like it was for my parents but is over the use of cyber technology.
Now more than ever us parents need to pray.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Just how relevant is your church?
Just how relevant is your church?
One of the biggest focus points on Churches over the last 10 years or so has been the desire to be relevant. Churches and ministers have spent huge amounts of thought, money and resources on their desire to be relevant to their community. What I have learnt is that unfortunately church has misinterpreted relevance as style when in fact relevancy is more about substance. It is not concerned with how you deliver the message but whether the message is pertinent to the target audience in most cases the unchurched.
The dictionary defines relevant as: adj; having direct bearing on the matter in hand; pertinent. It has very little to do with style. A relevant message or statement is about it being appropriate or meaningful to the target audience. It is not about whether the music was this century not last, video projector was used instead of overhead projector. A relevant message is a message that made sense to the listener.
Too often churches let themselves down by putting all their energy into the delivery of its message rather than the appropriateness. It doesn’t matter how comfortable the seats are, how many electric guitars or youtube clips you include in your sermon, if the subject is not helpful to the listener then it is useful. A drowning man is not interested if the ship is the latest or newest model, he is only concerned if it has a life buoy that can be given to him to rescue him.
Focussing on style does not make the message relevant. Focussing on style does not make the message better either. A beautiful photo is still beautiful whether it is in colour or black and white, taken on a digital camera or on a film camera. The relevancy of the photo is not affected by how it was taken but by what it meant to the viewer.
It would be an interesting if you were to survey your unchurched community about what they would think a 'successful' church might look like. Perhaps style of worship might not rate as highly as a perhaps a church that serves it's community.
As you start 2010 and you seek to be a relevant church to your community don’t worry about your style of service just concentrate on whether you are actually helping people find meaning and purpose for their life. Don’t leave them disappointed by with promises or showbiz, just give them hope.
What do you think?
One of the biggest focus points on Churches over the last 10 years or so has been the desire to be relevant. Churches and ministers have spent huge amounts of thought, money and resources on their desire to be relevant to their community. What I have learnt is that unfortunately church has misinterpreted relevance as style when in fact relevancy is more about substance. It is not concerned with how you deliver the message but whether the message is pertinent to the target audience in most cases the unchurched.
The dictionary defines relevant as: adj; having direct bearing on the matter in hand; pertinent. It has very little to do with style. A relevant message or statement is about it being appropriate or meaningful to the target audience. It is not about whether the music was this century not last, video projector was used instead of overhead projector. A relevant message is a message that made sense to the listener.
Too often churches let themselves down by putting all their energy into the delivery of its message rather than the appropriateness. It doesn’t matter how comfortable the seats are, how many electric guitars or youtube clips you include in your sermon, if the subject is not helpful to the listener then it is useful. A drowning man is not interested if the ship is the latest or newest model, he is only concerned if it has a life buoy that can be given to him to rescue him.
Focussing on style does not make the message relevant. Focussing on style does not make the message better either. A beautiful photo is still beautiful whether it is in colour or black and white, taken on a digital camera or on a film camera. The relevancy of the photo is not affected by how it was taken but by what it meant to the viewer.
It would be an interesting if you were to survey your unchurched community about what they would think a 'successful' church might look like. Perhaps style of worship might not rate as highly as a perhaps a church that serves it's community.
As you start 2010 and you seek to be a relevant church to your community don’t worry about your style of service just concentrate on whether you are actually helping people find meaning and purpose for their life. Don’t leave them disappointed by with promises or showbiz, just give them hope.
What do you think?
Monday, November 23, 2009
Has the church been hijacked or at least distracted?
History is full of all sorts of fads and fashions. Flared jeans, platform shoes, Rubik cubes and many more to mention.
There is one fad that I fear that is taking over the world and importantly taking over our Churches. It is the fear of global warming. This paralysing fear was introduced to the world by an ex politician who coincidently when in power failed to do anything but contribute to this allegedly inconvenient truth.
Now adopted as a fact by politicians and celebrities right around most of the world this fear is beginning to impact the thinking the final bastion of truth - The Church. Yes it would appear that churches are now taking their eye off the ball and what they are called to do and beginning in order to try and be popular and relevant and jump on the ‘world is ending because of global warming’.
This as a Christian I find hard to reconcile. Now don’t get me wrong. I am a big fan of having tanks on houses, using solar power, better light bulbs and picking up our rubbish. I am not a fan of adopting a popularist dogma with little scientific or theological support. I’m all for making wise use of the resources God has given us but I haven’t bought into the world is ending because of what man is doing.
To buy that thinking then you must seriously accept that man completely holds the destiny of this world not God. I don’t. I believe God will end this world when He is ready not when we allegedly destroy it. Doesn’t the Bible talk about Jesus coming back to earth when every tribe and nation has heard the gospel not when the polar ice caps have melted. Also after the flood I thought God was never again going to flood the world.
For me the jury is still out. Am I sceptic? Yes I am especially when the debate is driven by politicians and celebrities – people whose success is driven by popularity not reality.
I’m not sure if we as Christians are being hijacked but at least being distracted from our real purpose on earth – to point people to a relationship with God our Creator who is the master controller of what happens to this planet irrespective of greenhouse gases and Carbon dioxide.
For more info check out Peter Janetski’s Talking Life Show podcast on 96five’s website www.96five.com
Also here is a link to checkout http://www.auscsc.org.au/archive/images/PDF/skepticshandbook.pdf
Worth listening to and a read before Australia heads off to Copenhage
History is full of all sorts of fads and fashions. Flared jeans, platform shoes, Rubik cubes and many more to mention.
There is one fad that I fear that is taking over the world and importantly taking over our Churches. It is the fear of global warming. This paralysing fear was introduced to the world by an ex politician who coincidently when in power failed to do anything but contribute to this allegedly inconvenient truth.
Now adopted as a fact by politicians and celebrities right around most of the world this fear is beginning to impact the thinking the final bastion of truth - The Church. Yes it would appear that churches are now taking their eye off the ball and what they are called to do and beginning in order to try and be popular and relevant and jump on the ‘world is ending because of global warming’.
This as a Christian I find hard to reconcile. Now don’t get me wrong. I am a big fan of having tanks on houses, using solar power, better light bulbs and picking up our rubbish. I am not a fan of adopting a popularist dogma with little scientific or theological support. I’m all for making wise use of the resources God has given us but I haven’t bought into the world is ending because of what man is doing.
To buy that thinking then you must seriously accept that man completely holds the destiny of this world not God. I don’t. I believe God will end this world when He is ready not when we allegedly destroy it. Doesn’t the Bible talk about Jesus coming back to earth when every tribe and nation has heard the gospel not when the polar ice caps have melted. Also after the flood I thought God was never again going to flood the world.
For me the jury is still out. Am I sceptic? Yes I am especially when the debate is driven by politicians and celebrities – people whose success is driven by popularity not reality.
I’m not sure if we as Christians are being hijacked but at least being distracted from our real purpose on earth – to point people to a relationship with God our Creator who is the master controller of what happens to this planet irrespective of greenhouse gases and Carbon dioxide.
For more info check out Peter Janetski’s Talking Life Show podcast on 96five’s website www.96five.com
Also here is a link to checkout http://www.auscsc.org.au/archive/images/PDF/skepticshandbook.pdf
Worth listening to and a read before Australia heads off to Copenhage
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Family rituals or the glue that keeps your family together
If I was to ask you today how to define your family; what would you say? What are the things that make your family different from any family in church or the neighbourhood?
Ritual (n): activity that is performed religiously.
As we prepare for Christmas I’m struck by the many rituals families have particularly around Christmas holidays. Rituals are the things families do consciously or even unconsciously together. They can be deliberately created traditions such as always going to the same camping ground for holidays, always going to the grandparents on Christmas Eve or Dad always tells the same stories at Christmas lunch. Sometimes they happen accidentally and seem to be always repeated like promising every year to post Christmas cards on time and every year you manage to post them on Christmas Eve.
The thing about family rituals are they are the habits that define your family and become the glue that keeps your family together. If you like they are the constants in an ever changing world. They are the behaviours that help a family stay together or even over time when the children grow up and leave actually come back. They are the constants that create memories of shared experiences.
In the Bible there is no greater example than the story of the prodigal son. When the son is in the depths of despair he remembers what his family life was like and what he is missing out on. He realizes that it wasn’t money or possessions that defined him and brought him happiness but the love of a family that he really yearned for.
Resilience (n): ability to spring or recoil back after bending or being stretched.
What family rituals or behaviours do is breed resilience into the family as a unit and as individuals. Rituals can be used as places of refuge when the things go wrong. When the family unit or even one member is under pressure returning to a ritual like the family Sunday lunch can be a way of coping or gaining support or encouragement. Positive family rituals build resilience into you and your children. It helps them bounce back from adversity. These rituals become the foundations that success in our life is built on.
As Christians one of the best rituals we can introduce into our family is how we celebrate success or failure. I have noticed particularly in Australian culture people celebrate success and failure by the volume of alcohol they consume. The mark of a family of Christians is they celebrate success or failure by spending time with God in thankfulness or seeking guidance. It is that very ritual (behaviour) that builds resilience in our life and ultimately success in living a Christian life.
What rituals does you family do? I would love to hear about them. Drop me a note. I’d love to know how those rituals define your family.
Ritual (n): activity that is performed religiously.
As we prepare for Christmas I’m struck by the many rituals families have particularly around Christmas holidays. Rituals are the things families do consciously or even unconsciously together. They can be deliberately created traditions such as always going to the same camping ground for holidays, always going to the grandparents on Christmas Eve or Dad always tells the same stories at Christmas lunch. Sometimes they happen accidentally and seem to be always repeated like promising every year to post Christmas cards on time and every year you manage to post them on Christmas Eve.
The thing about family rituals are they are the habits that define your family and become the glue that keeps your family together. If you like they are the constants in an ever changing world. They are the behaviours that help a family stay together or even over time when the children grow up and leave actually come back. They are the constants that create memories of shared experiences.
In the Bible there is no greater example than the story of the prodigal son. When the son is in the depths of despair he remembers what his family life was like and what he is missing out on. He realizes that it wasn’t money or possessions that defined him and brought him happiness but the love of a family that he really yearned for.
Resilience (n): ability to spring or recoil back after bending or being stretched.
What family rituals or behaviours do is breed resilience into the family as a unit and as individuals. Rituals can be used as places of refuge when the things go wrong. When the family unit or even one member is under pressure returning to a ritual like the family Sunday lunch can be a way of coping or gaining support or encouragement. Positive family rituals build resilience into you and your children. It helps them bounce back from adversity. These rituals become the foundations that success in our life is built on.
As Christians one of the best rituals we can introduce into our family is how we celebrate success or failure. I have noticed particularly in Australian culture people celebrate success and failure by the volume of alcohol they consume. The mark of a family of Christians is they celebrate success or failure by spending time with God in thankfulness or seeking guidance. It is that very ritual (behaviour) that builds resilience in our life and ultimately success in living a Christian life.
What rituals does you family do? I would love to hear about them. Drop me a note. I’d love to know how those rituals define your family.
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Speed of the Leader; Speed of the Team
This statement from an ad on radio station 96five has been running through my head for the last week or so and challenging me on how I conduct my life. I think God has been challenging me on how I lead or more importantly how I influence those people around me.
For the purposes of this article I want to use the word influencer instead of leader. In my experience with leaders of churches, I have noted that when a minister has had to step down from being the senior minister, his sin is normally reflected in the life of the congregation. If his marriage has broken up, then there are a lot of broken marriages in the congregation, if it is sexual immorality then it is in the congregation. Speed of the leader; speed of the team.
So we as influencers set the pattern for those we influence. So who do we influence? Partners, children, friends, workmates, other people.
So what are the hallmarks of an influencer/leader:
• Encourager
• Listener
• Approachable
• Visionary
• Example
• Disciplined
• Transparent
• Charismatic
• Consistent
• Empowerer
• Discipler
So what is a Biblical pattern for an influencer? No where in the Bible can I see where people were taken away to be trained as influencers. There was no school of leadership. People were discipled on the job. Paul took Timothy and taught him through the school of hard knocks. Paul got rid of Mark, Barnabas then took hold of Mark, worked with him until Paul says later can you please send Mark because I need him. Jesus did all his stuff with the disciples on the job.
Here is the first major paradigm shift. Leadership/influence is actually caught not taught. It is not about creating a bunch of rules to live by. It is about looking for teachable moments to learn from. It is about showing how we conduct ourselves in every day circumstances. I need to model the behaviour I expect to see in my wife, children, friends etc. No room for hypocritical behaviour.
The next major paradigm shift is that influence/leadership is actually about making ourselves redundant. It is about empowering those around us to be ultimately able to live life without looking for direction from us. As a parent that is what I hope will happen with my kids. That, in the end, the way my kids conduct their life is an imitation of Kylie and I and it becomes second nature to them. They don’t have to ask us what to do; they automatically know what to do. That is true influence and discipleship.
Speed of leader; speed of the team then is conditional on us as influencers empowering those who are around us to become the people God wants them to be and ultimately have us as influencers becoming redundant to their life. It is to provide stimulation to their life not motivation.
For the purposes of this article I want to use the word influencer instead of leader. In my experience with leaders of churches, I have noted that when a minister has had to step down from being the senior minister, his sin is normally reflected in the life of the congregation. If his marriage has broken up, then there are a lot of broken marriages in the congregation, if it is sexual immorality then it is in the congregation. Speed of the leader; speed of the team.
So we as influencers set the pattern for those we influence. So who do we influence? Partners, children, friends, workmates, other people.
So what are the hallmarks of an influencer/leader:
• Encourager
• Listener
• Approachable
• Visionary
• Example
• Disciplined
• Transparent
• Charismatic
• Consistent
• Empowerer
• Discipler
So what is a Biblical pattern for an influencer? No where in the Bible can I see where people were taken away to be trained as influencers. There was no school of leadership. People were discipled on the job. Paul took Timothy and taught him through the school of hard knocks. Paul got rid of Mark, Barnabas then took hold of Mark, worked with him until Paul says later can you please send Mark because I need him. Jesus did all his stuff with the disciples on the job.
Here is the first major paradigm shift. Leadership/influence is actually caught not taught. It is not about creating a bunch of rules to live by. It is about looking for teachable moments to learn from. It is about showing how we conduct ourselves in every day circumstances. I need to model the behaviour I expect to see in my wife, children, friends etc. No room for hypocritical behaviour.
The next major paradigm shift is that influence/leadership is actually about making ourselves redundant. It is about empowering those around us to be ultimately able to live life without looking for direction from us. As a parent that is what I hope will happen with my kids. That, in the end, the way my kids conduct their life is an imitation of Kylie and I and it becomes second nature to them. They don’t have to ask us what to do; they automatically know what to do. That is true influence and discipleship.
Speed of leader; speed of the team then is conditional on us as influencers empowering those who are around us to become the people God wants them to be and ultimately have us as influencers becoming redundant to their life. It is to provide stimulation to their life not motivation.
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Is being insecure bad thing?
I was in a conversation the other day with someone who was telling me about how insecure they feel. They were spilling the beans on their fears, failures and wondering if they would ever feel happy or confident enough in themselves to ever be happy. It got me thinking about what makes people be either secure or insecure? Are people born either way or is it in fact learned behaviour?
My thoughts for what their worth are that our sense of security comes from our frame of reference or belief system. I think that we all come to a point at some stage in our life where we feel insecure - not knowing where our future lies and feeling a bit out of control of our destiny. That is when we discover a belief system that gives us our level of confidence to face life's circumstances. For me that belief system is Christianity. A belief in God the Father, the Son and Holy Spirit.
Some people choose self belief, others in different religions and increasingly more on fads or celebrity worship.
As I christian I believe God deliberately created us with a God shaped hole that makes us incomplete in our human form. This 'hole' creates a missing bit in our lives and we humans then seek to try and fill this missing piece of the jigsaw. Most people try all sorts of things to fill the whole with from materialism to greed, marriage, family, sex, sport even popularity or celebrity worship. In the end these things are the wrong shape because the whole is God shaped and all the other things are the wrong shape and don't fit properly. Some may fill the whole to some extent or for a period of time but because its not a perfect fit we begin to 'leak' and we go searching for something else to help fill the whole.
For me God was the perfect fit and then its from Him I begin to feel secure. Knowing there is a higher power than me in control of my circumstances means that I can face life not being by myself but with some one who is able to help me today on earth and in the future in heaven.
Anyway there's my random thoughts - I am keen to hear your opinion.
I was in a conversation the other day with someone who was telling me about how insecure they feel. They were spilling the beans on their fears, failures and wondering if they would ever feel happy or confident enough in themselves to ever be happy. It got me thinking about what makes people be either secure or insecure? Are people born either way or is it in fact learned behaviour?
My thoughts for what their worth are that our sense of security comes from our frame of reference or belief system. I think that we all come to a point at some stage in our life where we feel insecure - not knowing where our future lies and feeling a bit out of control of our destiny. That is when we discover a belief system that gives us our level of confidence to face life's circumstances. For me that belief system is Christianity. A belief in God the Father, the Son and Holy Spirit.
Some people choose self belief, others in different religions and increasingly more on fads or celebrity worship.
As I christian I believe God deliberately created us with a God shaped hole that makes us incomplete in our human form. This 'hole' creates a missing bit in our lives and we humans then seek to try and fill this missing piece of the jigsaw. Most people try all sorts of things to fill the whole with from materialism to greed, marriage, family, sex, sport even popularity or celebrity worship. In the end these things are the wrong shape because the whole is God shaped and all the other things are the wrong shape and don't fit properly. Some may fill the whole to some extent or for a period of time but because its not a perfect fit we begin to 'leak' and we go searching for something else to help fill the whole.
For me God was the perfect fit and then its from Him I begin to feel secure. Knowing there is a higher power than me in control of my circumstances means that I can face life not being by myself but with some one who is able to help me today on earth and in the future in heaven.
Anyway there's my random thoughts - I am keen to hear your opinion.
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